Conversations about end-of-life decisions and pre-death planning of funeral arrangements are personal and delicate. When begun, it is rarely ever completed in one sitting. Thus, it is important to take your time and weigh your considerations with much thought.
When you wish to have this conversation and share your plans with a family member, you may not know how to approach the topic. It is not uncommon that some might feel it as an obstacle as they struggle to communicate their thoughts and wishes. If you would like to kick-off these discussions with your loved one, here are a few tips to get you started on these conversations.
How To Approach The Topic
It is important that you receive the support, understanding and cooperation from your close loved ones. Approaching the topic is perhaps the biggest hurdles you may face when you want to talk about making funeral arrangements in advance. If you are in your twilight years, you may fear the reaction your children may have. If you are a younger person, it may be perceived as something that seems so far away.
The best way to become accustomed to the topic is firstly, to develop your own plan. This way, you’ll get to do plenty of research on funeral services, and the relevant funeral arrangements for a Christian funeral, for example, and learn about the emotional barriers that you and your loved one may have about the topic.
Thereafter, you can pick an appropriate time to bring up the subject and make a great and sensitive introduction. For instance, you can start a discussion with your loved one on future plans and bring the subject up.
It is good to have some preparation ahead of time with relevant documents that express your wishes, especially in cases when you are not able to speak for yourself. Filling out your living will is a process where it will help you clarify what is important to you and help you organise your thoughts. Research the options for end-of-life care and be familiar with terms associated with these documents as they affect your decision-making.
When you have done enough research and feel prepared, you are able to share with your loved ones on your wishes. This is especially relevant if you consider entering a nursing home or assisted-living facilities, so your proxies will know your wishes are up to date.
Give A Clear Direction
In moments of stress and grief, having these conversations and documenting your wishes will greatly help. You are able to give a clear direction on your desired funeral arrangements. You can talk to a funeral director on options between a burial or cremation method of disposition before you make a decision and ease the planning for your loved ones. Being prepared with your end-of-life wishes can also help you to save and manage the finances aspect, so the funeral costs are sufficiently covered.
Speak With Love And Affirmation
Death can be difficult to talk about for most people and it triggers an avalanche of emotions. These conversations reflect your belief in your quality of life, thus affirmations and concern conveyed with love can bring greater peace of mind about the future.